Motherhood – life with kids

The first few months of becoming a mother taught me what it felt like to be completely in love. The first and second-year taught me that I am a totally crazy badass boss, so far the third and fourth year of motherhood taught me patience, inspiration, and dedication to be a good mom for my two kids.

I thought that being pregnant for nine months up to the stage of labor and giving birth was the hardest month I've experienced in my life not only mentally, emotionally, and physically. I was wrong... From the day, I had my firstborn son, Jacob and up to this day that I had my daughter, Jasmin, I realized that it was just the beginning of the new chapter of our life as a parent and me as a mother.

I've been a SAHM for four years and I am truly grateful since I got the opportunity and given the chance to stay at home while raising my own kids. I mean that's all we become when we got married and when we decided to create our own family. It's not that simple, Being at home isn't as easy as it looks.

Goodbye Goodnight Sleep. Straight from the sleepless nine months of pregnancy, labor, and giving birth, Goodnight's sleep will be no longer exist. When you had your newborn baby back home, From that day you are now responsible for making sure that everything is good and well from feeding, a diaper change, singing a lullaby, and for the rest of your children's life.

Whole Day's Adventure. People think that being a SAHM does nothing all day. But what is the reality? As a SAHM your day is already fully booked with all the household chores you need to do and taking care of your family up until the night. 

Multi-tasking is the key. Making food for Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner every day is one of the most important things you need to do as a SAHM. Making sure that your children are getting fed with nutritious food, as well as your partner. Walk and buying groceries, cooking the food, feeding your kids, cleaning the kitchen mess, and doing your weekly overloaded laundry. 

You constantly need to clean. Even if you hired and pay a cleaning service every week, You still constantly need to clean. Part of my daily routine is to clean the house of course, who likes dust flying around the corner? I mean, I enjoy cleaning and organizing but having two kids around the house is very much challenging. Expect toys, legos, and utensils laying around or even misplaced. 

You are not alone in the toilet. We know that a restroom or toilet is a place where you can have peace and a bit of alone time. As a SAHM, expect that your baby will crawl around and your toddler wants to accompany you even when you need to p***. It may look like that there is a mini bonfire or picnic happening there.

It takes time before leaving the house. Living here up north in Scandinavian countries going outside with two kids indeed takes time. From getting ready with their clothes, sweaters, gloves, scarves, hats, jackets, and shoes. Putting it on is very challenging especially when they started crying, being cranky, and moody about it. And also making sure you have all the things you need before leaving with your baby bag. Even when putting them in their prams or car seats takes a lot of time.

I cried many times. It felt so bad as a SAHM to see your children being in pain or when they get sick. You couldn't do anything but to cuddle and hoping you could save them from feeling that all the pain. It’s all so emotional, and it all lies on my shoulders, and there’s nothing else I can do but cry.

My definition of SUCCESS has changed. When I became a SAHM,  I consider it a success when my three-year-old son, Jacob learned to asked me every time he needed to go toilet or my 8-months old daughter, Jasmin who doesn't eat baby food anymore and started eating normal foods. I find it a HUGE success when all of those successes happen, and I also manage to clean the house, cook dinner, and get the laundry done. 

It's not always a PERFECT DAY, but sometimes YES. 

Even though a lot of times, things aren't perfect. But sometimes it really is. It's when the kids are happily playing, when we simply read a book together on the sofa or when there is just so much love in my heart that I feel like I’m going to burst. Those are the times that are absolutely perfect, and it is in those times that I feel absolutely blessed to be a Stay at Home Mom, I wouldn’t have it any other way...

At the end of the day, Motherhood is a work in progress, no one is perfect so you can do what you think the right thing for your children and you can do your own way of parenting. Talking to a friend or fellow mother is a good benefit, not only you can get a glance at how motherhood looks like from a different perspective but you also get to take bits of advice and support on your journey as a mother. Being a SAHM means mom's life. And for me, Mom's life is Real life. It's all about raising your children while finding and rediscovering yourself and at the same time managing your relationship with all of the beautiful chaos in between.

To all selfless and loving mother, who put their family's happiness before their own. You deserve all the LOVE ♡